It can be difficult to live with someone who loses control with their anger but then is quick to turn around and say I’m sorry. After they’ve punched a hole in the wall, and called you four letter words, to then say I love you. How do you know when enough is enough?
It’s a great question that only you can truly answer. When someone has a tendency to lose control, the long term prognosis isn’t promising because it’s a habit that only gets worse with time. If deliberate intervention is not sought to uproot the cause of losing control, it can start to manifest into all types of maladaptive behaviours and attitudes. Once a pattern of losing control becomes habitual, one never know how ‘out of control “one can’t truly get, and life can become chaotic and unpredictable.
Losing control is stepping out of boundaries as to what is acceptable angry behavior.
From a clinical perspective, you can use the following check list to help you cement the decision made to stay or leave
Does the person become emotional abusive when conversations get heated?
Do they hit, push shove or threaten to do to when upset?
Do they break thing or punch walls?